Maybell XI

[Maybell]

Labug, I've been hearing Brene Brown from you and also from a real life friend who has been going through a lot the last few years. I guess the universe has to whack me pretty hard to get my attention. I'm hitting the library in a couple of days, I'll put her and Pema Chodron on my list.

One thing, though... Growing up, you learn a certain kind of reasonable from your family. When you have a family like mine, with parents who are extremely insular, suspicious, and rigid, you find yourself emerging into adulthood and learning that the world is very, very different than you were taught. Since late high school, I've been on a program of trying to figure out what I learned that is valuable, and what needs to be discarded. I married fairly young, so in many ways I swapped my FOO normal for my in-laws' normal... And theirs doesn't work for me either. So it's true that I don't entirely trust my own judgment because I'm not yet sure what is mine. But I'm working on it.