Ahoy, I'm glad my tag line helped. It helps a lot... When I remember to use it.
Labug, yes, his drinking is a problem for me, though I tend to second-guess myself because I come from a family where drinking was seen as a stupid waste of money and a sign of moral weakness, whereas H comes from a place where it was a thing to do in itself. Where is reasonable? I don't know but the question causes me anxiety.
I've reduced my contact with him and the space is helpful. There is a major kid event on Saturday that will mean I have to be around him, or at least in his vicinity and possibly a celebration lunch, but this space is helpful for getting me in a place where I can handle that.
He has said a couple of things in the last few days that I would have jumped all over earlier this week, about how he can't wait to get home, am I doing ok, etc. they are just rolling off my back. And today I feel happy. There are so many things in my life that are good, or exciting. I have so much potential in front of me. If everything were perfect I wouldn't know how blessed I am.
Last edited by Maybell; 09/09/1402:18 PM.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
