Was just wondering the same thing! How long is NC useful and when does it just become the new normal. Or is it all about the WAS, letting them have their time "alone" however long it takes for them to reach out? And then what should the NCer consider as the WAS "reaching out" and what to do about it? Stop NC?
Who has an answer for us?
Well I have AN answer, though I'm sure several exist. All I know is My h left more or less for 2 years, one of which was spent 3000 miles away. I worried about "out of sight, out of mind" --but it didn't work that way for us. Too many years together perhaps?
I did GAL big time, & we had kids so contact of some sort took place but was all but but weeks and months went by without any "real" information being shared much.
I don't think he worried much, after awhile, that marriage would not improve. I also think that he worried that I would not take him back, not b/c I was so angry but b/c I was SOOO moving on and getting a new life in which he was not a part. I think he realized he was losing more than I was, or something like that.
Anyhow, we're married to this day. So that happens..
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
How long is NC useful and when does it just become the new normal. Or is it all about the WAS, letting them have their time "alone" however long it takes for them to reach out? And then what should the NCer consider as the WAS "reaching out" and what to do about it? Stop NC? 