Yes, take it easy. Been there, done that. Your H is on the right track....exactly what he did.

My BD was in 2010 and until now I still think of the OW and all the pain. I was able to finally open up to my H and let him know about all my heartache just this year, and he also told me about how much he regrets everything and wished that he never met OW. Talk about slow. But I wanted to make sure that what we had was unshakeable before giving in to my need to let it all out. He responded in exactly the way I hoped he would. I finally feel at peace.


Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18
Bomb: 6/26/10
EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ???
11/5/11 Retrouvaille
Finally piecing....
Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go