Thanks for the information KGirl. My therapist works with me on active listening skills.
My wife and I met when I was in my mid-twenties. We were friends for years before we started dating. She was a pretty active dater. I was not.
A year before we started dating my wife made a decision not to date for a whole year. She said she was just plain worn out.
This was great news for me since I hated watching her go out. I became her "plus one" for events. Eventually she fell in love with me.
We dated for a year. Got engaged. We were engaged for about 16 months and then got married. If you totaled up how much time we knew each other before we got married it was probably about 10 years. I was 35 when we got married.
My wife was in no hurry to get married and neither was I. Neither wanted to live in the other's home so we sold both properties and bought our house. Things like that pushed the wedding back.
We didn't live together before we were married. That was something neither of us was comfortable doing. It was an all or nothing commitment for us.
