and yes ^ as Maybell said, think through your plan. And how you can state it as a personal boundary, rather than telling him what he is or isn't "allowed" to do.
Me:30 H:29, no kids T:12, M:4 (when D was final) 12/13: "Don't think I want to be M anymore" 6/14: Separated (I move) 1/15: H filed for D 5/15: D final