Pilot, along Lisa's train of thought, when I reached the 9 mo mark and felt that my timeline was 1 yr, IC actually recommended I use those last 3 mos to reach out to W on a more consistent basis asking her to dinner, movies, etc. I could then use her responses to help judge her interest in R.
'Other things' took place and changed my strategy, but the couple times we did go out, I really do think it helped W see the new me...
