Please be careful here Caliguy, You ended your post with "... looks like she is wanting to try...". Just be very careful there. It was just a few days ago she and you had a fight and both you and her were "done". This sounds a lot like the pursuer/distance dance to me. You fought, she got worried, you went to an emotional thing (her brother in jail) with her and was nice, touching, etc. Be ready for the distance and darkness that is to come. This is what's called having "expectations". She was nice and seeming like she wanted to try one day and now you "expect" that to be the same a day, week, month later. Expect that to change on a dime and as you saw when you were hit with the blame when the nanny said something to her, YOU don't have to do anything to cause her to change. In fact it has nothing to do with you, really. It's inside her where her pain lies, she is just blaming you in hopes that she can stop the pain.
Enjoy the times when things seem better. Use them to learn and recharge but be careful that it won't change fast and for no reason. Keep up the GALing and 180's, you're doing well.
