Why would you say,"Yeah, and remember how mom did ____, that was so funny"? Why bring your wife into any conversation you have with your daughter unless she prompts it? This is a lesson I had to learn and you need to do the same. Only on rare occasion do I ask my kids how their mother is doing. Other than that I try to pry as little as possible. You need to do this for yourself and your daughter. Showing interest will not help the situation. Detach.
On the other topic, there is no talking logically with a 14 year old. That is about as fruitless as hoping for a dramatic change in your wife. Stop pinning hopes on the fruitless and get your self grounded for both you and your daughter.
Twisting on Life's Rope Me53 W53 M20 D21 D19 D16 BD 2-2013 D final 1-2015 _________________________ "Dream about tomorrow, Live for today, Learn from yesterday"
