Need to figure out how to move forward (thread #4)

[shodan]

Thanks Train, these examples are very helpful. I think I was going about it the wrong way, being "dark" but not confident. I need to exude confidence and be attractive without pursuing her.

Update on things...my W went to NYC yesterday on a Sunday. She said she had to take out two people who are starting on her team. She is getting a ton of pressure from work to be in NYC all of the time.

Before she left, we chatted briefly and she mentioned that she does not want us to be where we are, takes full responsibility for not saying anything sooner but that her feelings for me are just different. She feels empty. I told her that it will take a long time for those feelings to come back and that it starts with committing to working on our M with no outside distractions. I told her that we both have some big decisions to make.

She texted me a couple of time yesterday and we had to talk about the kids for a bit. On that call, I reiterated what we had discussed...effectively, this is her journey and she needs to figure out what will make her happy and that only she can make herself happy. She is working today and tomorrow, going to the Yankees game with clients and then on the last flight back on Tuesday night, landing here at midnight. I told her that she should stay the night and come back later in the week if she wanted. She said no, I want to be home.

I know the guilt of the kids is what is causing her to want to be home.

I will continue to detach as much as I can. Move forward, be a great dad, show confidence at all times, be light and breezy, smile a lot and avoid love busters (specifically angry outbursts and disparaging comments).