Feels like an eternity (Mindsin - part. 3)

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OK, so you dont know for sure she is with OM. She sounds very similar to my W. Vague sometimes and very specific other times. I found out that when my W was being very specific, THATS when she was with OM. Might be something to think about. Maybe try having a PMA. Instead of assuming she is with OM, assume she is with a dear friend, or the people she hangs out with the most. It is sort of burying your head in the sand. But, is that any worse than assuming and mind reading? I dont think so, PLUS it will make you feel a LOT better, and allow you to focus more on 180, detaching and GAL.
Full disclosure : a week or so ago a mutual friend confronted my W about OM. Prior to that I had laid down a boundary stating I would not tolerate her treating me like that, and if she did I would not allow her to live in the house and I would not cooperate with her in working through our dissolusion. My action and that of our mutual friend caused my W to end her OR.

I'm sorry you are going through this situation. I certainly understand a lot of your frustrations and emotions. If you decide to work on the boundary make sure you do lots of research and practice your technique. Boundary setting can be very difficult and can really sound controlling and be very destructive if not done properly the first time.