I'm Back...not sure if I want it to work

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I agree with Bond. You are the one that needs to answer that question. You could also consider moving out, having zero contact until he's really ready to work on R, and not filing until you feel like you can't wait any longer. If you do that, you'd need to really work on detachment. You would need to be very detached so that if he did come groveling back, you would be independent and clear-headed enough to evaluate if he is spewing more lies or seems like he really wants to work on R. If you leave but are obsessively thinking about him, you will be prone to believe anything he says to get you back.

But if you truly don't want to wait on him any longer already, don't string yourself along. Either way, you need to be detached in order to make the best decisions for yourself.