What to do when an EA involved?

[mindsin]

When I feel like the W's A is getting stronger, I keep telling myself "If you want something to shrink, you must first allow it to expand".

Also, understand that if your W is meant to be with this OM, then that is what will happen and it will be HER choice. The only thing you can do is make yourself into the better choice.

If she's reached a point where she is still contemplating you as one of her choices, consider that to be in your favor.