Just catching up now. So how did the talk go? I will tell you that her confusion will come through her voice. Just validate her feelings and say that you will not stop her from doing what she wants to, but you have to do what you feel is right for you and the kids. Then leave it at that.
Let her rack her brain as to what that means. The more confusion she has the better.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.