I'm feeling your frustrations! I want to tell my kids about OW, but we all know we can't tell our children these truths.
Your D loves what you do for her. Don't feel like its a competition with your ex. What truly matters is your D happiness. Be happy for her and her experience. Our WAS took important events from us, but you can celebrate with your D without having to deal w/h and his craziness.
Hang in there!
Atsbaby M:36 H:35 T: 19 M:12 S:11 D:9 BD: 5/4/14 Proof of OW 8/13/14-love note from her 8/19 admits OW 8/22/14 files D w/o telling me 9/20/14 Says he wants to reconcile