I'm sorry your day is a tough one, Ats. It's harder when he kiddos are gone, and we are left to figure out new habits.
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I hate the person Clark has become. I just HATE him!! He is ruining my life and my plans. This is not what my life is supposed to be like. I'm supposed to be happily married with two beautiful kids, a great job and plans for the future with superman.
^^^ this....^^^^
His choices don't have to ruin your life. Don't give him that power. It isn't fair what they did. It's not how we thought it was supposed to be. But it's how it is.
The good news is that you can change and control the outcome anytime you want. You can still be happily married if you choose. You just can't choose for Clark, so it may or may not be with him.....follow? I find it easier to let go of the "happily married" label, and drop the married part.... Be happy, regardless.
I hated to hear things like this. But the sooner I got past it, the better I felt.
You still have two beautiful kids and the great job. You can still have plans for the future, although they may be different plans than the original. Doesn't mean they are worse....they usually end up better. I don't know any couple who lived all their original plans, come to think of it...
Regarding Superman.... Time will tell if Clark is still Superman. If not, someone else can surprise you down the road and wear the cape.
So for now, decide what you want and what you can do to take the focus off of him, especially when the kids are gone. Spoil yourself, and remember your value. He's crazy, you're worth more, and what he does right now is meaningless. Let him fall on his own. She is a bandaid, a distraction, and things are not as awesome as we imagine, I promise. It's not real. The A will die a natural death and it's a wonderful day when it does. Don't give that any energy, because it's sooooo not worth it. You'll see. Use your time on you, because you're the investment that matters. Just keep being The Glorious Atsbaby you are.
I'm no expert, and I'm learning along with you. We can tag-team picking each other up on down-days .
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