Igit newbie needs help part 3

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igit, take this as a GREAT sign. not to let your guard down, but she is opening up about some of her frustrations. her saying she has been trying to 'talk' to you for 4 months but you wont listen. In other words, she has been saying something maybe you have not been hearing. listen to what she has to say. validate. do not point fingers or cast blame. use this opportunity to show off the new you.

this is a good thing for you!

I would just also like to add caution to not get your expectation built up for anything. Just listen to what she has to say, validate, and make the interaction as positive for both of you as possible. Your M wont be fixed over this one talk, but it certainly can be a good step in the right direction.