Need to figure out how to move forward (thread #4)

[Train]

Nope. Those things sound really controlling - and like you're trying to get a reaction from W.

I KNOW how confusing and hard things are right now for you. But you don't have to make this more complicated than it is.

You act confident - as though you couldn't care less how your wife is acting or what she will decide. You can hang as a family to watch TV. You smile and act comfortable. No foot rubs or back rubs or anything of that nature. Sports games? Go, sure. And definitely don't tell W not to go. But dress nicely. Wear a new cologne. Maybe some new shoes. And walk around. Mingle with people. Increase your social circle there. Some would suggest that you don't even sit near W. But always make sure you're smiling, confident and happy - always putting that best sho on display.

Have an air of mystery. But don't be cold or mean. Quite the contrary, actually. You want to re-attract your W. No one is attracted to someone who is cold and distant.

If you take your W a coffee, look your best, smile and don't wait around for small talk.

Confidence and decisiveness coming from a place of love, care and respect are very attractive to us girls. If a man is a doormat, most of us will walk right over him.

Were you a wet noodle when W fell in love with you? No? Then don't be one now. But don't jump to the other extreme either.

Starsky may have more to add.