I can relate to the financial strain. I was out of work for 1 year, and dealing with the sitch at the same time. I had no money coming from any source during this time. In the past, when I was in between the projects, I could rely on H. We supported each other and each other’s backs. I didn’t have that anymore when I was out for work last year. I started working about 3 months ago, and it feels good. I gained all my confidence back, that I can take of myself and survive whatever comes my way.
It must be very hard to live with the MLCer who openly has this much disdain for you and blaming you for his misfortunes. I didn't see much of that from my H, since he was gone. Actually he just didn't come home from his work in another state. This is probably why I think that he was not that bad. But, I don’t know that for sure. He is such an actor and can hide his feelings pretty well.
Your H behaves like a teenager now. It’s like not wanting to live with his “mom”, but having no other means to exist, but also blaming “mom” that he is “stuck” with her. Poor boy… Not! I would ask him to contribute to the bills. If he says that he has no money, ask him what he thinks the solution should be then. I’m curious what answer he comes up with. Will he say that he expects you to cover for him?
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
