So it wasn't your son that hurt you, you felt <something> because the expectations you had for their lives haven't panned out.

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I'm realizing that I'm limited in my ability to keep that promise. I've revised it to promise as best I can to give them the skills to deal with difficult people in their life, including me and their father. I can't do that if I'm behaving dysfunctionally myself.
Simply, yes. And we are all limited.

Expecting more than that is what keeps us in the cycle of unhappiness. Can we grow? Sure, but it's a process. Be gentle with yourself.

Last edited by labug; 09/07/14 04:58 PM.
Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss