I'm going through the exact same thing, but we've "only" been married for 16 years. WW just up and left one day. Later I discover she's having an affair with a woman. My WW has filed for D, but I'm hoping she'll come to her senses before it's final.

If she had just come to me one day and said she was no longer attracted to me or men in general, I would have given up right then and there. The thing is, she's following the wayward script to a "T." She's behaving like a woman in an affair, not a woman who's discovered she's a lesbian, so I've been approaching this like a regular affair.


M 16 T 17
W moved in w/ AP (OW) 5/14
ILYBNIL 5/14
A discovered 6/14
D papers served via USPS 8/14
Filed my response 9/14
D final 5/15...