Wow, what tremendous insight you have. So... maybe you are putting the pause on your DBing this particular M for the moment (not much to do while he is away anyway...)... but it is a perfect time to work on the changes you can/want to make in you. P/A behavior, as I'm sure you know, is a recipe for disaster. So, that sounds like something to work on.
And while genetics and conditioning may lead us to act like our parents, we DO have control over ourselves, especially if we are mindful and self-reflective and have the desire to change.
We can only control ourselves, but we CAN control ourselves. You can do this Maybell!
Talk through your latest interactions with your parents and your H with your IC. Maybe think through how YOU could have acted differently even if they can't change. Because that may just change how you feel in a big way. Do you see how any of your control issues are popping up in your interactions with your parents? Re read your thread and notice places where you could have DBd your parents...
I'm typing on my phone so I apologize for the brusqueness of this message. In case it sounds clunky like I'm hitting you with a 2*4...it's a foam one, wrapped in a big hug.
