Wife dropped the bomb; doing in house separation

[HopeTex]

Thanks so much 25yearsmic, appreciate your thoughts a great deal.

I am taking a good amount of our furniture with me, so not being a pushover there.

I am struggling with it, but what I need to do, and what I am slowly doing, is taking more ownership of the process and being more of a man about it. It is hard because I am still in a lot of shock and grief, and still some denial at times. But I am gradually regaining my strength and direction at least temporarily, and when I feel strong I try to make progressn taking control: opening my own bank account, choose an apartment, putting to get her a list of D items for us to discuss, etc.

I have had some realizations that I have been adrift for a while in certain parts of my life, basically just letting my wife handle things. Finances is one. Need to take back control of that, that will def be a 180.