So W shows up late to the soccer game with S ...I bit my tongue and did not say anything. Our nanny was there and we were talking and goofing around then all the sudden W flips saying I was making fun of her, she storms off ... like a 8 year old. Evidently the nanny was giving her grief about being late, not inviting her to all S functions ... got her worked up and yours truly says one thing and I get the entire backlash .... so now we are back at fighting ... been weeks since we have had an argument and this one was not even me! She did give out some info about me pushing us dating more, I simply told her I would like to atleast talk more ... she did ask why I am not calling/pursuing (I did not say anything other than I felt I would be pressuring her if I did that ... I respected she needed space .. the divorce support group book was in her car and she did mention it was not what I thought it was ... not sure as it was still a heated exchange but I kept calm, used the quiet voice ... I do feel I did well ... but the squirrel is loose and running ... just hope its not a big set back ...but looking at the big picture I suppose with last weeks boundary it was going to happen ... either we cross this hurdle ... or she is further back in the tunnel and I have to wait more.
I did say a few things I regret .. I told her go ahead and run .. enjoy her date, I would be the parent as she leaves our S during the soccer game ... she did come back .. but still blames me for ruining the day, says she can not be with me ... I am only wanting her for her looks and to control her. I simply validated, and told her I care about her, and all that makes her ... has little to do with looks.... more to do with our marriage and our family.
