Dealing with WAW part 5

[pilot]

Pilot,

i was a bit confused about the logistics of the evening with the boys and why the arrangements were so convoluted (to me anyhow). But here's the deal. You do NOT know why she was so hesitant for you to go inside but I'd rule out any OM issue b/c there's no way she'd risk your sons saying something. And they would say something if some new guy was living or visiting often, etc. There's no way she'd risk that being blurted out and kids DO blurt things out like that.

Yea, it is pointless to dwell on it. I guess the main reason I did was was because it was the 3rd time since she has moved down (a couple of weeks) where she has gone out of her way to avoid a situation where I would have an opportunity to see the inside of her place. Ultimately whatever the reason nothing changes. There could be as many 'positive' reasons for her actions as negative. All I know is she did not want me to see something in there. So...moving on

She knows the boys were not happy and she knows she played a role in that. Let it sink in. If you say much, she'll feel attacked and any introspection she might have engaged in, will be lost.

I wont, and had not planned on saying anything to her about it.

My h had some goofy events and made some horrendous comments in those years some of which I recall quite vividly. But there are at least a few he literally does not even recall now, and I think he's being honest. (I mean, I really believe he does not remember some of the crappy things he did or said.)

thanks for sharing the story. Sometimes I forget that many others here seemingly had it worse off than I have it. Although I really have no idea how bad it is, since there really has never been any communication. Regardless, it does illustrate how things can go from bad to good if conditions are right.

So, back to YOU. How are your GAL activities going?

My GAL activities are going very well. I just got back in from taking the kiddos swimming. I have various social events planned this coming week, and next weekend I am taking the kids out boating. (I give them back to W tomorrow). I generally have no problem finding things to do. I still avoid the bar scene though...not much interest in that.

Thanks for your post!