Thanks Maybell! I actually did tell him because I thought it was the right thing to do. He was amazing about it. He told me it didn't bother him that she knew and he didn't feel that it was relevant to the issues they are having. I'm feeling really fortunate today.
My insecurities have been high from a set back we had last weekend. H has been wonderful about helping me through it. Since OW was a coworker, he's been voluntarily giving me daily reports about their interactions and lettinge see any email correspondence. He's also asking for clarification on what is acceptable to me in terms of his interactions with her. I'm thrilled that we are communicating about this so well. All and all, I feel like we are back on the right track.
Me: 30 H: 35 M: 5 years S2 Signs of MLC started Feb 2014 BD - PA July 2014 Piecing/reconciling late July 2014