Thank you for sharing your story. I am sorry it took so long to reply. There are too many similarities and I am so sore you had to go through that. I will take encouragement that you and the kids survives and thrived.
I have been mulling and processing and will come back later to share. Right now s is having a tantrum.
Me 44 H 42 M 10 T 12 (at time of BD) Ss 20 16 S11 (special needs)
BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom 10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied S and I move out 3/15