Wow, Elsa! That all sounds so positive. It's so great that a few more things are out in the open and that you've got a set of practical tools to work through some of the issues. What is the "pause" phrase you mention? I always thought H and I should have a code word that we could drop when one of us was getting distressed.
The MC just wanted him to say, "I feel controlled." Tomorrow I plan to ask H what he'd like to see happen after he says the phrase. Any suggestions that I could offer, in case he asks (he usually does)?
