I get what you're saying MrBond. At this point, I can only keep doing things that draw her in. At some point, the dynamic will need to balance.

Me: 34 W:33
T: 10 M: 6
S: 6 D: 5
BD: 5/14
Still together(ish)
Not giving up: 7/14
D talk has slowed, a lot.
Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms.
Slow and Steady wins the race.