I had a long talk with a friend today whose parents divorced after an A when he was 9. He HATED everything about it. And I see that it still follows him and his wife (who had a similar experience) to this day. But he said he thinks my H doesn't have enough responsibility in his life and so it's making it too easy for him to coast. And he says that from his own struggles and being forced to move out of them.
I've been struggling with what to do. Moving forward with a legal agreement because I'm worried about my H's direction. He's significantly cooler with me since I told him he wasn't a romantic contender at the moment and I think I need to let that be because maybe he's going to actually think (he called the kids at 11 his time rather than 1:30... for what that's worth. Which is probably nothing). Or maybe he's just mad at me and thinks I'm a hypocrite.
He'll think what he thinks. I wish I could take it back... and also I'm glad it's out there. So we'll see what happens. I don't want him thinking he can trample me. I've done a lot wrong, even this deep into the process. The only thing I can say is, it wasn't unprovoked. But I'm trying to do better.
Happy weekend, friends.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
