I am dealing with a lot on my plate at the moment that is very messy like a bad spaghetti with splashed sauce all over it.
However reading your recent post really knocked the wind out of me because I thought to myself...Really??!! Is Matt that dense and/or stupid?
Originally Posted By: Matt
When my D14 calls to ask to pick her up to take her to school, instead of doing it, I should tell her I'm sorry but I just can't. This way she gets to really see how living with my W feels. See that her mother wants her there but isn't willing to do the same things I am (like make sure she has a ride to school in the AM and in PM). Right now because I am willing to do these kind of things for her even when she's with her mom, she will think that as long as she stays with her mom, she will have the best of both worlds..her dad when she needs me and her mom when she's "willing". When she stays with me her mom won't EVER come and pick her up from school or really have anything to do at all with her. D14 might just think that by staying with her mom, she will be better off. This is starting to make sense to me.
Originally Posted By: Matt
What do some of you vets out there think about me needing to show my D14 what being with her mom is really going to be like? If I ever do get a different job I may not have the flexibility to do these things and D14 needs to understand that she can't always count on my being able to take up the slack for her mom when she stays with her. At only 14 can she really see that her mom is being uncaring and selfish towards her?
Slapping you hard on the upside
Matt, Matt....you are not DBing D14!! Your job is to be there to support D14 through this new transition.
Why on Earth would you hurt D14 in this manner by tightening screws on her just show her that Mom is the unreliable parent??!!! What's your point here, really?? Some victory for you---at whose expense??!! D14 already knows this and doesn't need you to put screws into her just because you are very frustrated with your W.
This is strictly between you and W. Don't you ever even entertain notions about just leaving D14 high and try just to teach her a lesson about her Mom. How wacky is that thinking process?
More importantly....why on Earth would your so-called "clear-headed" work colleagues even suggest that ^^?? Stupid, stupid.
Originally Posted By: Matt
At only 14 can she really see that her mom is being uncaring and selfish towards her?
Haven't you been listening to D14 and D19 at all??? They've already told you several times how crazy Mom has been and how unreliable she's been. Good Lord...D14 is already living through this so she doesn't need to "know how's that gonna look like." Jeepers!
Why would you even bring up that question any way, Matt? Was that idea planted by your stupid, stupid work colleagues? What were they thinking??! Must have smoked something at the office.
Come on, Matt. I think you can do better than this. Really.
