What to do when an EA involved?

[bdub]

Overall, today was better than yesterday? One day at a time, one foot in front of the other.

I agree with mindsin on the in laws. I know its not right, but I talked to my FIL and SIL and I was very careful about what I said. I used the conversation to attempt to sort of manipulate the advise they were giving, and were going to give to W. I sort of "showed my cards" but not all of it was true. Manipulation is a BAD thing and this is the only time I will do it.
They did in fact filter the conversation back to W and they said exactly what I wanted them to say. Calculated risk that paid off.
I am NOT reccomending you do this though. I was a nervous wreck for 3 days until the message finally filtered back to me through conversation with W.