Was at the old house last night. Wife and kids where there. No OM. Was working on some stuff for the realtor. Kind of ignoring the wife and she came to me and started talking to me. I asked how she got the kids to school because Thursdays are hard for her with school. She said she brought them. I said how did you do that and make it to school. She said she didn't go. She said she spent time with OM(he is back around this weekend). She said she had not been feeling well. I offered to take her in. And asked if it was emotional or gut problems. She said kind of both. Said she is so stressed out with every thing. I validated. Saying well I know you skipped school because of him. But please don't make it a habit. You are number one in my book and should come first. She said wow that is the first time you have ever said that. I said well it is the truth. I continued working all night on the stuff. And every time she came out to smoke after that she would find me on the five acre property to talk to me. I would stop what I was doing and focus on what she was saying. One of the key things in the beginning was she said that we never even did stuff together even as far as working around he house together. So I made it a point to ask her when I was out side working if she would like to join in on some of the stuff. All night long I did not seek out any attention from her at all. She came to me. I even flirted a little with her. In the three hours I was there, she probably came to me about seven times. Which is a lot of smoking even for her. Just some behavior changes from her.
She asked if I worked this weekend. Which is odd because she knows I do. And she doesn't forget stuff like that. Asked if I could set up another doctor visit for the oldest. Which is a 180 for me, I always didn't do that stuff. I feel like she is always testing me. We did some small talk about her school and the kids. Just tying to be the man I should have been. And any women would be crazy to leave.
Patience patience patience!
M36/W30 S13,D10,S6 Married 4.5 together 12 Bomb 1/14 EA/PA OM 1/14 still going Served 2/14/14 Separated 3/14 D paused 6/14 6/15 divorced
