Well, I've been thinking about the best way to protect myself. To create the boundary that I need.

She is moving out Tuesday, and making plans to go out with OM "soon" when things "cool off"
I can't and won't sit around while she actively plans on resuming the affair where it left off. It's not what I will accept from a marriage, and even a separation.

So I've decided to start divorce procedures, to let her know that I am NOT going to wait for her to get her affair out of the way. I still want her back, at least a new and improved her, but this is not what can agree with.

I'm not sure that this is or isn't DB at this point, but I'm not sure how else to show that I am not going to let this happen without consequences to our already destroyed relationship.

any ideas?

me:30 WW:29
Dated 7 years
Married for 2
Bomb on 08/12/14
Separation on 09/12/14
No kids
No house