What to do when an EA involved?

[bdub]

I called my FIL and told him that i was standing for my marriage about a week after BD. Needless to say W had told her side of the story only and it was NOT a good conversation. I dont regret telling him what I was doing, I wanted to be sure they knew I was not giving up. I did not take the opportunity to fill them in on my side. It would have done no good. They are her support system. Her parents know that I am fighting with all my heart to save our M, and that I am in it alone. If that is not enough to make them think I am a decent man then the issue is theirs and not mine. Twice in the last week I have heard her defend me to her mom over the phone. More on that later maybe.

Re: the listing: Simply by bringing up the fact that it is all happening so fast has allowed your W to mind read and put words in your mouth. When you said things were moving really fast, she heard you say things were moving TOO fast and that really concerned you. take advantage of it and slow things down. Set the stager appointment back a while. Take your time making decisions. Time is your friend. Look back early in my sitch, I had that fact hammered in to me pretty early.