My story is like so many I have read about on the site, so I will spare details (see signature below). briefly, it is a WAW MLC scenario. She has served me dissolution papers. W is still seeing OM. We are still in same bedroom, but separate beds. Almost no communication between us. My older children know that something is very wrong. After I found out about my W's A, I made all the classic mistakes. Now, I am now working on myself, going dark, spending more time with my children. I have spoken to a DB coach. It is hard to GAL because I have invested so much time in my children and W in the past, that I don't have much of a social life outside my home. I have started running and getting into shape and I like my new bod, but how much can I exercise??
I need some emotional support and I have some questions. I am having a lot of difficulty with maintaining PMA when I think about what W is doing to her children. Like all MLCers, she thinks she is a great mother and the younger ones are clinging to her even closer. I do not want OM around my children and W does not want to leave her children. My ILs are encouraging and emboldening my W further.
I have been very slow in submitting papers to my attorney so as not to push forward with D - as suggested by DB coach. My children are beginning to act out due to fear of the unknown. they are also scared and confused by my mood. I value M as an institution, but I do not see how I can stay married to W. I already fantasize about dating and meeting someone else, but I (and my children) am mired in this awful purgatory. When do I give up?
