Three, my W needs to feel me pulling away without me going into d*ck mode. When we first started dating, we were great friends but she did not want to ruin our friendship by starting to date. I was very direct with her and told her that I was not looking to date. I told her that we had a chance at something real and lasting. She still balked so I asked a female friend for advice. Her advice was to hook up with someone else and get her jealous. So I did that. The next weekend my W asked me to go to her parent's house in VT with her and I said no, that I had plans. She later told me that she was so annoyed by that but also find my cockiness very attractive. A week later we were out at a bar and she kissed me. One week later we went on our first date and told each other that we loved each other. Three months later we moved in together.
Interesting. I think you are right on target in knowing that in that ^^^ lies a key to how to re-attract your wife.
I also think you're drawing completely the wrong key from it.
Your wife is attracted by a strong stand. Many, many women (not all) are. MOST of these will simultaneously COMPLAIN about the strong stand that you take. They key is to watch what a woman DOES, not listen to what she SAYS she wants.
There are ways to do that without being some neanderthal, controlling d*kk. Mostly it has to come from a pure heart, good intentions and a loving attitude and having her best interests and those of your marriage always in mind. But at its basic, pure raw ATTRACTION level, there's a basic law of human interpersonal male/female dynamics at play here, and you'd be wise to learn it and apply it to your advantage in trying to re-attract your wife and eventually reconcile your marriage.
