My kids have not reacted much at all. When asked, my D says nothing is that different because H was always traveling anyway. I don't think she really thinks this, but I am having a hard time getting her to talk about it so I'm just doing the best I can to encourage her.
My sons hurt me because they've stopped saying they miss him, they've stopped asking when they can spend time with him, they've stopped asking when they can call him. S8 doesn't answer his texts anymore. They're happy to go with him and just as happy to come home. I try to remind them that he loves them. That's all I can do.
My daughter asked the other day if I was coming to Thanksgiving with them and I had to say I didn't think so. She wasn't at all happy about that. But she didn't say anything. I just could see her face. It was hard not to be angry with him about that.
I don't think his drinking is so much a problem that the kids are unsafe with him. I do think he's out of control. At best he's deep in replay/MLC.
I took my ring off today. I'll probably call the lawyer and schedule the meeting to talk about the separation. I'm still contemplating if that's because I'm angry with him for being out so late all week or if it's truly something I need to do to protect myself and the kids.
I don't know who he is any more. I feel sad about that. He was my good guy.
And I know I'll be great. But it is wrong.
Last edited by Maybell; 09/05/1402:33 PM.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
