Maybell X

[Georgiabelle]

Maybell,

Whether it's a D, S, mentally ill and or addicted parent, ultimately you will do the best you can. You can try to minimize damage and ultimately the other parent will be who they are. Life throws many curveballs at ALL of us and while we hate to see our kids suffer, we can only do our best for them. That's all we've got.

I don't know much about ADD, however I do know my h drinks a great deal now. Probably not a good combo for him with his other issues. That's not for me to control. He does have rather limited contact with them (few hours a week) so all I can do is be alert for safety concerns. Again, you are their primary caretaker and you can only control what you can.

RPP (sorry for hijack Maybelll), I was terrified to tell the kids too. My stbxh said not one word. That is one thing that makes me cry is their faces. I don't say this to scare you-it was the most difficult thing I've ever done. However, we got through. They were completely blindsided as my stbxh always told then d was never an option. They didn't even know what that was. When I told them we needed to talk, they asked if we were having another baby. So innocent and heartbreaking. However, after that conversation they know they can ask me anything. The house is much calmer and even stbx mil says the kids seem more content now. It doesn't mean they aren't hurt or confused. I've just tried to explain as best I can. I love them. I'm always here for them. Their Dad loves them, however I do say he is going through something. I don't know how he will be in the future. I never say anything bad although I try to be honest as well. It can be a fine line.

Again, regardless of what happens, you will be great! I'm not saying there won't be any pain or suffering. Just know you and you children will make it through regardless of what happens.

Hang in there:)