Need Help before I blow a fuse.

[20&lost]

Thanks for the input. You are completely right when I look at it. Trying to figure out how to do my 180. The more involved I get around the house and with the kids, the more she pushes away and gets irritated. I am working on my GAL and to give her plenty of space. What I have been doing for the last 9 months has been driving her crazy and also my self. My full focus on trying to fix the marriage has pushed W into an emotional relationship with another man which just eats me up. Just do not know how to do a 180 because my personality is full force forward on trying to fix problems; I get tunnel vision. This is a blessing on many fronts but not so much when it comes to relationship building.