I think Bets meant letting go doesn't mean not standing.
Letting go means letting go. You figure you out and give him space to figure him out.
If you find yourself feeling healthy and strong and ready for... something else and he's not there yet you might decide to move on. That's in the future, you don't have to decide that now.
whatever arises, you'll be up to the challenge so try not to anticipate too much.
About your parents, sometimes we have to have boundaries with them, too, in order to maintain a healthy R. It may never be a fairytale R but it can be healthy from your side. Their emotions aren't your responsibility. (remember we share a very similar family emotional setup )
Day by day.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
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