I'm no expert. I'm not a child of divorce and neither is my stbxh. D is pretty frowned upon in both families and my stbxh's family is extremely family focused.
Is having a dad who is there in body but absent otherwise better than a D? Honestly, I don't know. My h's behavior was so frightening (some discussed here and some not) that for me, safety became a true concern. I'm not saying that is your sitch. My h has never mentioned D to the kids so I have explained that is what is happening. My older 2 also know their is something wrong with their Dad as he is not the same man he was when they were younger. Their therapist is aware of his mental health issues and MLC. I'm not sure if your kids see a C. I know your h travels a great deal whereas my kids were used to their Dad always being at home. You are the primary caregiver so it falls you. I can relate to the difficult position.
Just remember, you have zero control over your h's behavior. You only have control over you and your financial security is very important. I don't say this to scare you-just know people can change behaviors so make sure you are protected. I believe your h has been paying everything, however it does appear his top priority is himself. I don't say that to be hurtful.
Never hurts to have your ducks in a row. Hope you have something planned for the weekend. :-)
Last edited by Georgiabelle; 09/05/1412:59 PM.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
