Thanks Ss, I like that.
That's exactly how I acted when she came with her friend in her friends truck to get some furniture. We had agreed the night before to exactly what she was going to take as I told her that I hadn't had time to do much unloading of and going through the furniture she wanted to take. Of course, she decided once she was there that she was going to take more than what we agreed to and when she started to take something I wanted to keep (the first time I had tried to stop her from taking something SHE wanted other than saying "Oh, are you taking that? OK.", she blew up and went to her lawyer the next day to finalize the D! (I'm still fighting what she put in that "Final Decree" so it's not yet final).

It was like the longer she was there, the more upset and anxious she became. It didn't matter that I was being really nice to her and pretty much letting her be. She knew what we agreed to. It was like she wanted to act like everything was done and we had agreed to everything she was going to take and she felt "entitled" to take anything, like our home was a thrift shop and was looking for the "best" stuff!

Also the fact that last weekend she texted me about how she doesn't think I'm paying "my share" of D's expenses because she took both the girls to the Dr.'s, put $30.00 in her school lunch card and bought some school supplies, tells me that she wants to "talk" about that kind of thing. Knowing how she has been over the last several years, her "talks" consist of her demanding what she wants and getting upset if I don't agree to everything SHE says. Like has been pointed out here and has become crystal clear to me....my W has zero "coping" skills, just like most MLCers. She can't seem to just talk and come to agreements as she will either become very upset if I don't just give in or feels it's OK to just "change her mind" and not stick to anything she says.

I know that she is wanting more than just her books and also that she is feeling over-whelmed, that she is paying more than her share (which isn't true but it's how she "feels. We all know how MLC's and reality go together...like oil and water!) and that means I can expect some unpleasant things come tomorrow!