OK Everyone, I have a question! I texted my W today to tell her that I was going to pick up D14 after school and take her home since D14 stayed an extra 2 days at her mom's (and that was 2 weeks ago! I miss having her with me!). First she texted "Why?" like she didn't remember that D14 stayed an extra 2 days. Then she texts back that she wanted to come over on Saturday to "Go thru (her) books". I am certain that there's more to it and I really don't want her here so she can cause trouble trying to take things that don't belong to her or that are still in "dispute"! So I text back to her that I have already packed a large amount of them and that I would be glad to take them to her place when I get D14. So, after about an hour I get back "No, I'd rather do it so I can divide up the ones to go to library and ones to keep". Umm... I suspect she wants to come here for more than books, I don't want her here, I don't trust her. So, I text back "Well,if you have them all there, can't you do that when you unpack them?".
I get back "No would rather go thru them and drop off at library on way home. Much less work and a lot less carrying". There is not either less work OR less carrying! That's stupid! Now, I know there is more to this. I didn't respond for about 40 min. and before I could the phone rings. It's my D14. She says that her mom said that I wanted to pick her up and take her home Friday after school and she doesn't want to have to take all her stuff to school with her that she wants to bring, won't have her dog, etc. I tell my D14 that of course I was planning to take her to hers mothers house to pick up her stuff first. Don't worry about that. She gets quiet and hems and haws and says "Well, mom wants to come to get her books Saturday and I figure I can just go with her".
So, seems that her mother put her up to calling me! So, I decide to just be honest with D14. I say "I just don't want mom wanting to take more than just her books. I have a feeling that she wants to take more than just her books". My D14 says "Yeah, she did say she wanted to get something else. I don't remember what it was....". Aha! I knew it. Why doesn't my W just stop this crap? She seems to have a need to cause trouble. She is so much concerned about "stuff", not so much about her D's! But since my D14 said she'd rather come Saturday I said that my W can come.
I plan on having all her books packed and ready to go when she gets here so she doesn't have a reason to stay. I also plan on being busy as well. I DO NOT want to "talk" to her about money issues like she wanted. I don't want to talk about her father or the D or anything else really. I know that she will want to take things that I don't want her to and that she put on the Final Decree that my lawyer is fighting. If she takes those things then what do I have to bargain with? The court will say I "gave" them to her so she should just keep them. To be honest I don't even want her in my home! (She still says she considers it HER home still as the D isn't final and she has a "right" to come here which isn't true!).
So, any thoughts on how i should handle her when she tries to take more than "her books"? How to just keep things from exploding which she seems to not be able to stop from doing if she hears one thing from me that she doesn't like. I hate this! I wish she would just stay in her sand box!
