He did sign a year lease so I guess I should batten down the hatches for at least that long, huh?
No, a lease can be broken/bought out. My W just signed a year lease, and if I really thought I would have to sit like this for a year, I would quit making an effort and just walk away. So do not let the term of a lease discourage you.
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It is MUCH easier to detach when we have no contact. In fact, when D7 is with me, I feel like I could survive this no problem. It's when she's not home that I HATE my life.
YES! And yea, I know how it stinks to be without the kids
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THIS though, this LBS stuff? It's so much about "maybe" or "will he?" or "I hope" or "please, please, please" which is what makes this HELL.
Ugh. As a disgruntled DBer I say, "onward".
Ok, STOP looking at DBing as a way to get him back. It is not. It is a way to make YOU get to a place in your own life where you are able to be fine without him. And should he decide to come back, you would be in a place where you would be best suited to facilitate a successful path towards reconciling. Remember, getting your spouse back is really nothing more than a lucky (or I guess sometimes unlucky) side effect of successful DBing. Once you take the focus off getting your spouse back, the rest should come much easier.
I know...much much easier said than done, and I myself am in no way near perfect on this.
Good luck!
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16
