I want to say something encouraging but I don't feel qualified. My kids are with me all the time.

I think it's great your H set up a space for your D, whether he's there twelve months or twelve weeks. It absolutely beats what my H did for our kids. The worst part is knowing that they feel it. For you, that's a comfort. Trade-offs?

Ok, here's a pact: I will squeeze some self-care into the next three days if you will figure out how to make the time your D is away enriching for yourself. Sound fair?


Me42, H40
D12, S8, S7
A revealed: 7/13
Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15

She believed she could, so she did.