Turns out it was an infection from the procedure. On an antibiotic now and feeling much better!
I had a R talk with H tonight. We talked about neither of us showing up to court yesterday. I agreed to some MC and he agreed to giving me all passwords, looking at his phone whenever I wanted, absolutely no contact, his continued IC, and living apart for the next few weeks.
He is very remorseful for the pain he caused me. And seems to be making the right changes. Let's see if they last.
It has been very nice to have him here to help with the kids.
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction