Amoeba Whisperer: "Stay in your OWN Petrie Dish!"

[GoatGal]

kml,

He did shave five years off his age, and his profile is rife with comments about how "everyone says I look and act so much younger than I am!!! They are amazed when they find out I'm really (my LYING) age!!!" sort of things.

I actually *think* what happened is he can't stand being alone, really alone.

When his 'roommate' was gone for a week I think he was in a really bad place, and those TV commercials come on all the time...He'd said several times how lonely he was and that it s*cked.

He might have logged on out of curiosity and then, seeing all those wonderful babes who "flirted" with him (not that any of THEM are lying!), he had to pay the $89.95 to see who they "really" were.

When I logged on, I almost paid too!
I was curious to see all the creeps and what they said to the "Fake Profile" me.

In the end, I decided I didn't want any more ugly stuff in my head and let it go.

I do have friends who have used the various sites and they're full of interesting horror stories.
Almost every one lies about their age, appearance, income--just like he did. Even his personality description is his complete opposite.
Many of them have no social skills and no real life prospects because they're not actively out there meeting people.
Online, they can pretend to be anyone, and they do!
Married men--who say they're divorced, never married, or worst of all: WIDOWED!
Or the best one was "I'm the sole caretaker for my ailing wife. She's had cancer for years and I can't divorce her because I'm all she's got."

This guy got a lot of sympathy mileage on that one. Everyone thought he was such a great guy.
NONE OF IT WAS TRUE!

So about GUBU's lying: Someone on here said that's because they're trying on various personas. I don't doubt it.

The only thing that hurt me to read was all this talk about "With the RIGHT person" he would be romantic, affectionate, passionate, a real cuddler; basically that with ANYONE OTHER THAN ME, he'd be "cured" of all his issues.

I know this isn't true, but it did hurt to think he might believe that.
I'm over that now, because I see it for what it is. Wishful thinking.

The fact is, if he couldn't be those things with me, it says everything about HIM and nothing about me.

As for real-life dating, I know GUBU is a mess, that he is not going to make a good impression on anyone other than an employee (OW). He has nothing to offer anyone right now.

Any woman worth her salt will pick up on that right away.

And the rest--well, if he wants an older version of messed up OW who he won't take out in public, I guess that's his choice.

His preference has been online porn for years, probably the online flirting where he can remain an anonymous, made up person probably has a lot of appeal.


But enough about GUBU.

If the time comes for me to date, I don't think I'll be starting with online services.
I'm doing okay with people liking me enough in real life to send quality singles my way.

PS: I almost wish he'd go on a few dates and get really turned off by the reality check!
And AIDS is growing most rapidly in the 55+ segment of the population in the US, because they don't use protection!


---GGG