Sigh. I know you are right. And yes, I would never have let this sort of thing pass unchallenged if I'd read it elsewhere.
The best thing to come of all this, aside from how much freer and stronger I feel in myself, is the massive improvement in my relationships with my brothers. Those have been completely transformed and I'm so grateful. I'm not going to let them wither again.
All will be well, and all will be well, and all manner of things will be well.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15