Need Help before I blow a fuse.

[MrBond]

" She also couldn't understand panic attacks because I am so strong minded."

I don't think you understand that she probably TRIED to understand in the beginning and then your strong mindedness pushed her away. Over time she just gave up and stopped trying. That's more on you than her.

"She also appears to be going thru Mid-Life crisis."

I don't think so. Right now she's trying to live her own life and not in the shadow of yours. You pushed her away for 8 YEARS so this is the consequence.